The only acceptable spider is the one that does all the band music for PT’s Circus in A Bug’s Life.
Apparently Jared started a new company
and he’s riding around naked
Dean and Cas are into women
All those Meadow Walker instagram, facebook and whatever accounts are fake! You can clearly tell! A 15 year-old who just lost her dad like that will not go on social websites and write long-ass posts about it.
Stop pretending to be her, that’s rude and disrespectful.
I think I figured out a way that we can put some of these arguments to rest.
Or keep them going, I can’t predict the future as I am not a psychic……dammit.
I keep seeing Destielers claiming that Dean is canonically “bisexual”, I’d like to go into a bit of detail on how that IS actually possible…..with a little help from Freudian concepts.
You see Freud claimed that we are all bisexual, and naturally when you hear that you’re automatically thinking “Well he must mean that we’re all into both genders instead of focusing on one”. If that were the case than every person on this planet would have dated someone of the opposite/same sex at some point in their lives. Eventually they might have developed a long-term relationship with either one or both sexes (biologically speaking). Considering the fact that there are countless people on this planet that have NOT dated more than one gender in their life, it’s safe to say that Freud didn’t meant “bisexual” in the traditional sense (or as “traditional” as we seem to make it).
What Freud ACTUALLY meant was that we’re all bisexual in terms of social acceptance. Think about it, if you were completely heterosexual you wouldn’t even acknowledge someone of the same sex, let alone be their friend/family. Social bisexuality refers to your acceptance of people of both biological genders regardless of social norms and religious beliefs.
Now it’s to what EXTENT that you’re socially bisexual that really makes the difference. Some people get uncomfortable when presented with compliments by someone of the same sex (usually guys from what I can tell), this isn’t necessarily a sign of homophobia, but rather a sign that those people haven’t fully developed their ability to be socially bisexual and are in fact still suffering from tunnel-vision courtesy of social norms and religion.
If you were to break it down even further, and take a look from a more technical perspective, the word “bisexual” doesn’t actually mean “you prefer both genders on a sexual/romantic level”. The prefix “bi” means “two”, and the root word “sexual” refers to the biological sex of the person/persons. Simply put the word actually means “two sexes”, it doesn’t directly translate to “two romantic sexes”. Society has deemed the term “bisexual” as a way of referencing a person/persons that prefer both sexes sexually/romantically. In fact the word “gay” actually means to be “carefree, happy”, while in later years society began to use it to describe a person/persons as “homosexual”. It’s the original meaning of each word that Freud derived his theory.
To be socially bisexual doesn’t mean to be capable of attraction to both sexes, but rather having the ability to accept their social advances onto YOU without experiencing discomfort and vice versa. A guy giving another guy a compliment and the receiver graciously accepting the compliment is a sign of social bisexuality. A guy giving another guy a compliment and the other reciprocate in the same manner (i.e. respectfully, honestly, and in a friendly way) is a sign of social bisexuality. A guy giving another guy a compliment and the other reciprocating then both proceed to compliment each other in an eager manner is considered to be flirting, and would fall under the category of “romantically bisexual”.
But how does physical bisexuality play into this? Well this particular category can be broken down into two subcategories: romantic and social. It’s perfectly normal to hug someone of the same sex, regardless if they are family, friends, or even a complete stranger. We as mammals are, on an evolutionary level, prone to “herding”, which means we are always seeking another person to socialize with. It’s in our nature to want to be around people like ourselves, so it is also in our nature to exchange certain social gestures. A hug is a sign of acceptance, that the person you are hugging is important to you, HOW you hug them is what will ultimately determine the subliminal messaging behind it. Body language is EVERYTHING. If you hug someone and it only last a second or two, that person is considered a friend or aquaintance. If you hug someone for a few seconds or more, that person is considered family. If you hug someone for several seconds and hold them tight, you’re either feeling relieved that you yourself survived something traumatic, or you are feeling relieved that the person you hugged is safe. All three types of hugs would fall under the subcategory of “social-physical bisexuality”. If you hug someone and you hold them tight, there’s no back-patting of any kind, and it lasts longer than a traditional family hug, that person is important to you on a romantic level and therefore this hug would be classified under the subcategory of “romantic-physical bisexuality”. Back-patting is a signifcant method of measuring a hug’s meaning, when present it is usually a sign that you value the other person as a friend/family member.
Romantically-physical bisexual concepts also include sexual preference in terms of physical intimacy, not to be confused with the general term “intimacy” which (on psychological terms) refers to a closeness between two persons, that know each other on a deeper level than a simple friendship. Intimacy doesn’t necessarily mean you know someone’s favorite color, or what kind of music he/she listens to. Intimacy refers to knowing someone’s personal life (somewhat detailed, if not more), knowing what makes them “tick”, and understanding them as a person.
Now after a long essay’s worth of a post, how does this tie-in to Destiel? Well it’s simple, I agree that he’s bisexual, but only on a social level. Dean is quite capable of giving and receiving compliments from a man, although he needs more development in that area, I feel that he does well enough. He’s not 100% comfortable with hugs, and only seems to accept hugs from family, not to mention each hug only lasts a few seconds (i.e. a family-type hug) which further confirms (in my mind) of his social-bisexuality (back-patting is usually present during these exchanges). His physical-bisexuality on a social level includes the hugging, handshaking, punching, face-holding, and when necessary carrying. His physical-bisexuality on a romantic level includes sexual activity, kissing, sharing a bed, and flirting (all of which have only been executed when interacting with a female). Dean’s physical-bisexuality in terms of his exchanges with men never excedes the hugging phase, an act he participates in when family is involved.
Furthermore I believe Dean is a highly intelligent man, who is very much aware of his sexual preferences and while we as fans may not know in exact detail what those preferences are, it is safe to say that he came to terms with them a long time ago and is perfectly comfortable with enacting said preferences.
**I’d like to clarify that I am NOT attempting to derail your ship, I just thought this might help in providing some clarity**